Every kiss and sexual act with your husband will remind you of what you did.

We have a beautiful family and I wont risk it for anything so I cant come clean with him because it meant nothing.

The only way I was able to stop was to come clean and give him a chance to make a choice.

I came to notice that everything I was doing was for selfish reason.

Cutting of brie wont help you because Im assuming your still working with her.

But like I said not telling him is a sign that your still thinking about the possibility.

Your still trying to figure out if you want to continue that route or stop.

They always say if you truly love your spouse you will tell him.

To be honest I dont think you were playing wing man to brie I think brie was playing wing man for you.

I know this goes against the grain but telling him will ruin everything for him and you.

It will crush him and most likey ruin your marriage, unless hes VERY VERY understanding and forgiving.

If hes not and if youre very sure that there is no way that he will find out, Id keep quite AND DONT CHEAT AGAIN I always wonder why people say its best to confess when all that happens are ruined lives.

And the saying I know of is If you love your spouse you woundnt cheat.

Brie isnt a bad influence, youre looking for an scape goat for what you did.

Imagine the guilt you will have when you tell your husband - ruined husband, ruined family life, ruined marriage, on top of cheating.

It is very selfish to keep quiet and your husband will notice eventually.

You should tell him and give him the opportunity and be prepared to meet any demand he lays out to keep the family together.

Or at least offer to get the kids tested if you do not want to do it premptively.

Him giving you permission to do this was him saying he wants you to feel young again, just from now on do it with him because you cannot be trusted.

Unfortunatly if I was your husband I would stay after a DNA test and you would not be allowed out the house except for work and going out with me andor the kids ever again (although I dont really understand myself why any person man or woman wants to do something without their significant other).

But you dont want to own up to your mistake and you think you can live without confessing.

The people on here that tell you not to tell him are the biggest hypocrites and would want to know if their significant other were cheating on them.

I Regret My One Night Stands